Just like I ask clients about their life on day 1, they tend to ask me about mine once we get over the initial first month or two.
I am very fortunate to have been training a majority of my clients in the 3-5 year range. I have 2 clients I've been with over 9 years now even. These people know me pretty well. They also know and ask of my family often.
I do have a handful of clients less than a year so it is fun for me to be asked questions about myself as a way of reintroducing myself again. Having to start new relationships always makes me think deeper on some levels.
My newest client started in July twice a week. He is very much in the beginning stages of building a client relationship with me. "You gotta watch this show! It's so great. If you don't have apple TV you have to get one" he said.
So. Here I am about ready to explain that I genuinely do not watch much TV. How weird must this sound to people. Just another example of how different I feel from general society. In an Apple world, I'm a Samsung girl too. We are just not at that point yet of knowing much about me. That's okay! We will get there.
Backtracking. He loves basketball. He once asked if I watch the games. I said, "I love basketball, but no I do not watch the games. I can't commit to watching oh so many games. I watch football..one game a week. actually, sometimes 2, because we watch Tampa (Go Tom Brady!)." The only other show I watch is This is Us, but it's been almost a year since I last tuned in. I have LITTLE idea what some of my clients are talking about most of the time when they talk about TV. At one point, maybe in 2020, I did decide I would try and watch a few of their shows: Bridgerton, Marvelous Mrs Maisel, Firefly Lane. While it did make excellent conversation as they were performing exercises, the habit just didn't stick with me. Those who know me seem to know by now that TV is not something we will talk about much.
It didn't hit me until a few months ago, while talking with my best friend like we do about 5-10 hours a week, that the reason I do not watch much TV at all is because I find her life, and all the people I talk to in my life, very satisfying. I love to hear about their weekends, what they did since the last time I saw them, what they will do the next few days, how their family is etc. They are my "TV". I am one of their biggest fans..I love that role. My relationships with people fulfill my need to stay up to date on REAL life with REAL people. My people. I LOVE my people.
Like I've heard or seen from so many people over the years, TV (or any screen time) is an escape from life..Their words. Not mine. An Escape.
What are we escaping? Is there something else we can be doing that would better ourselves? What happens when we face the mirror? How would building relationships with people change your life, instead of building it on a device?